Parents Consent for Baha'i Marriage

Purpose of Consent:

"Baha'u'llah has clearly stated the consent of all living parents is required for a Baha'i marriage.... This great law He has laid down to strengthen the social fabric, to knit closer the ties of the home, to place a certain gratitude and respect in the hearts of children for those who have given them life and sent their souls out on the eternal journey towards their Creator."
Written on behalf of Shoghi Effendi, October 25, 1947.

"It hath been laid down in the Bayan that marriage is dependent upon the consent of both parties. Desiring to establish love, unity, and harmoney amidst Our servants, We have conditioned it, once the couple's with is known, upon the permission of their parents, lest enmity and rancor should arise amongst them."
Baha'u'llah, Kitab Alaqdas Par. 65


Consent Requirements:

"As for the question regarding marriage under the Law of God: first thou must choose one who is pleasing to thee, then the matter is subject to the consent of father and mother. Before thou makest thy choice, they have no right to interfere."
Abdu'l Baha, Selections from the Writtings of Abdu'l Baha p. 118

"In many cases of breach of marriage laws the believers apparently look upon the law requiring consent of parents before marriage as a mere adminstrative requlation, and do not seem to realize that this is a law of great imprtance affecting the very foundations of human society. Moreover they seem not to appreciate that in the Baha'i Faith the spiritual and administrative aspects are complementary and that the social laws of the Faith are as binding as the purely spiritual ones."

متحدين إلى الأبد

فستان أبيض .... وبدلة سوداء
طرحة .... وفرحة
دبلتين .... وقلبين
يجمعهم حب وأمل


أبين .... وأمين

موافقين .... وراضين

أقارب .... وحبايب
شاهدين .... ومجمعين
في حفل زواج العروسين

دي النهاية !!؟
لأ ، دي بس البداية
بداية وحدة بين
فــــردين
قلــــبين
روحـــين
وكمان عائلـــتين


وحدة تتروي كل يوم
بالود والمحبة
بالتعاون والمشاركة
بالتفاهم والمشاورة
بوحــدة الهــدف


وكمان تتقوى باستمرار
بالتضحية والإيثار
بالخدمة والاحترام
بالمسئولية والاستقلال
بالصبر والاحتمال
بالعفة والاخلاص
بالرعاية والحنان
بالدعاء ، بالتأمل ، بالتوكل على الله


بس كدة !!؟

لأ ، ده لازم نكون
دائما مفعمين
بالبشر والحبور
والبهجة والسرور
والسعادة والرضا بمشيئة الرحمن

وبكدة يدوم الأتحاد
ويُكتب للزواج النجـاح

THE NATURE AND PURPOSE OF BAHA'I MARRIAGE

Baha’i marriage is an everlasting relationship between a husband and a wife; their aim is to become one united family materially and spiritually and to achieve spiritual growth throughout there live in this world and the world to come.

“ Thus the husband and wife are brought into affinity, are united and harmonized, even as though they were one person. Through their mutual union, companionship and love great results are produced in the world, both material and spiritual. The spiritual result is the appearance of divine bounties. The material result is the children who are born in the cradle of the love of God, who are nurtured by the breast of the knowledge of God, who are brought up in the bosom of the gift of God, and who are fostered in the lap of the training of God. Such children are those of whom it was said by Christ, ‘Verily, they are the children of the Kingdom!"
Abdu’l-Baha (Tablets of Abdul-Baha Abbas III, 605-06)

“ Baha’i marriage is union and cordial affection between the two parties. They must, however, exercise the utmost care and become acquainted with each other’s character. This eternal bond should be made secure by a firm covenant, and the intention should be to foster harmony, fellowship and unity to attain everlasting life”
Abdu’l-Baha (Published in Baha’I World Faith, P. 372)

If the marriage was based on spiritual principles then it will be an everlasting marriage and the husband and wife will be with each other eternally.

“Among the majority of the people marriage consists of physical relationship and this union and relationship is temporary for at the end physical separation is destined and ordained. But the marriage of the people of Baha must consist of both physical and spiritual relationship for both of them are intoxicated with the wine of one cup, are attracted by one Peerless Countenance, are quickened with one Life and are illumined with one Light. This is the spiritual relationship and everlasting union. Likewise in the physical world they are bound together with strong and unbreakable ties."
Abdu’l-Baha (Published in Baha’I World Faith, PP. 372-73)

“When, therefore, the people of Baha undertake to marry, the union must be a true relationship, a spiritual coming together as well as a physical one, so that throughout every phase of life, and in all the worlds of God, their union will endure; for this real oneness is a gleaming out of the love of God.”
Abdu’l-Baha

The physical relationship must be established on the spiritual relationship.

“It should not happen that upon the occurrence of a slight friction of displeasure between husband and wife, the husband would think of union with some other woman or, God forbid, the wife also think of another husband. This is contrary to the standard of heavenly value and true chastity. The friends of God must so live and conduct themselves, and evince such excellence of character and conduct, as to make others astonished. The love between husband and wife should not be purely physical, nay rather it must be spiritual and heavenly. These two souls should be considered as one soul. How difficult it would be to divide a single soul! Nay, great would be the difficulty!"
Abdu’l-Baha

The marriage vow

When a man and a woman marry in the Baha’i marriage, each says to the other, before witnesses:

“We will all, verily, abide by the Will of God.”

Baha’u’llah

There is a relationship that the husband and wife will establish when they say the marriage vow that each one of them accepting the other one and they all abided by God’s will. God is witnessing and supporting them for the successes of their marriage if both husband and wife are sincer on this relationship, and then it will be an everlasting marriage.

We only can understand Baha’i marriage from the Baha’i writings.

“The true marriage…of Baha’is is this, that husband and wife should be united both physically and spiritually, that they may ever improve the spiritual life of each other, and may enjoy everlasting unity throughout all the worlds of God. This is Baha’I Marriage."
Abdu’l-Baha

"Such a chaste and holy life, with its implications of modesty, purity, temperance, decency, and clean-mindedness, involves no less than the exercise of moderation in all that pertains to dress, language, amusements, and all artistic and literary avocations. It demands daily vigilance in the control of one’s carnal desires and corrupt inclinations. It calls for the abandonment of a frivolous conduct, with its excessive attachment to trivial and often misdirected pleasures. It requires total abstinence from all alcoholic drinks, from opium, and from similar habit-forming drugs. It condemns the prostitution of art and of literature, marriage, infidelity in marital relationships, and all manner of promiscuity, of easy familiarity, and of sexual vices. It can tolerate no compromise with the theories, the standards, the habits, and the excesses of a decadent age. Nay rather it seeks to demonstrate, through the dynamic force of its example, the pernicious character of such theories, the falsity of such standards, the hollowness of such claims, the perversity of such habits, and the sacrilegious character of such excesses."
Shoghi Effendi (The advent of Divine Justice, P. 25)

لغة

يلعب ابننا (عمره سنتان)في الحديقة
يتوقف لمشاهدة مجموعة أطفال يلعبون معا
يبتسم فرحا .. يحاول الانضمام إليهم
يشير إلى صدره باصبعه السبابة قائلاً: دى ى ى
ينظرون إليه مندهشين ..يستأنفون اللعب
يكرر المحاولة مرة ثانية قائلا: دى ى ى
يلتفتون إليه ... يقتربون منه .. يحاولون فهم مايقول
:اتدخل مترجمةً ما قاله
"ابنى يريد اللعب معكم وهويقول "دى ى" التى تعني "انا نا" أي :أنا اريد ان ألعب معكم"
تنطلق ضحكاتهم .. يضمونه إليهم ... يلعبون معاً
هكذا الأطفال يتقاربون سريعاً
لا يحتاجون إلى اللغة كثيراً
فقط كلمات قليلة .. ومشاعر حميمة
على عكس البالغين ، اللغة حتمية للتفاهم وعرض الآراء والأفكار ،.. والمشاعر
أما بالنسبة للدول بعضها وبعض فالتفاهم بينها أكثر تعقيدا
وأحياناً يكون مستحيلاً
فتنشأ الحروب والنزاعات نتيجة الفهم الخاطئ للآخر
ومن هنا تنبعث ضرورة إيجاد "لغة عالمية " يتحدث بها جميع البشر
لغة يتعلمها الاطفال في المدارس إلى جانب لغتهم الاصلية
تخيلوا يتعلم اطفالنا في جميع انحاء العالم لغتين فقط
لغة بلدهم وبذلك يحافظون على هويتهم
واللغة العالمية التي يتم اختيارها من بين اللغات الموجودة حاليا أو يتم اختراعها
فيستطيع كل فرد ان يتواصل مع بنى وطنه بلغتهم الام
و ايضا يتواصل مع مختلف البشر باللغة العالمية دون الحاجة لتعلم لغات متعددة
تخيلوا معي إلى اي مدى سيكون التفاهم والتقارب
سوف يستطيع اي فرد التنقل بحرية إلى جميع انحاء العالم متحاوراً مع الجميع بنفس الدرجة وكأنه يتحدث إلى أخوته
سوف تنساب المعارف والاكتشافات الحديثة إلى كل فرد في العالم بسهولة وسرعة
سيتم توفير الوقت والجهد والمال الذى يصرف في تعلم اللغات المختلفة
ستطلع الشعوب على ثقافات وعادات بعضها البعض
ستتفاهم الدول معاً بسهولة ويسر
سوف لا تنشأ حروب ونزاعات نتيجة الفهم الخاطئ للآخر
سيصبح العالم قرية صغيرة متفاهمة متناغمة متنوعة
...وتكون

" الأرض .. وطناً واحداً والبشر سكانهًُ "

:يتفضل حضرة بهاء الله

البشارة الثالثة

تعليم الألسن المختلفة وقد صدر هذا الحكم من قبل من القلم الأعلى.فليتشاور حضرات الملوك أيدهم الله أو وزراء العالم ويختاروا لغة من اللغات المتداولة أو يقرروا لغة جديدة ويعلموا بها الأطفال في مدارس العالم وكذلك الخط. فحينئذ تُشاهد الأرض قطعةٌ واحدةٌ. طوبى لمن سمع النداء وعمل بما أُمر به من لدى الله رب العرش العظيم

A FAMILY IS A NATION IN MINIATURE

"Compare the nation of the world to the members of a family. A family is a nation in miniature. Simply enlarge the circle of the household, and you have the nation. Enlarge the circle of nations, and you have all humanity. The conditions surrounding the family surround the nation. The happenings in the family are the happenings in the life of the nation. Would it add to the progress and advancement of a family if dissensions should arise among its members, all fighting, pillaging each other, jealous and revengeful of injury, seeking selfish advantage? Nay, this would be the cause of the effacement of progress and advancement. So it is in the great family of nations, for nations are but an aggregate of families. Therefore, as strife and dissension destroy a family and prevent its progress, so nations are destroyed and advancement hindered."

Abdu'l-Baha, The Promulgation of Universal Peace, p. 157

طفولة

اشاهد الأطفال يلعبون بسعادة فى الحديقة

اراقب ملامحهم وتعبيرات وجوههم

بعضهم ذوي عيون واسعة وآخرين ذوى عيون ضيقة لكن يشتركون جميعا فى نظرة البراءة والذهول من هذا العالم الواسع

اما الأفواه: يملك البعض افواه كبيرة ، وآخرين افواه ذات شفاه رفيعة ، ولكن يشترك الجميع فى نفس الابتسامة السعيدة

يتعالى صراخ الاطفال هنا وهناك ، اصوات حادة ،اصوات غليظة ، لكنها كلها تعبر عن السعادة

رغم هذا التباين الشديد ،إلا أنهم يلعبون معا بانسجام وكأنهم أخوة وأخوات

هكذا الأطفال في جميع أنحاء العالم يمتلئون بالحب

الحب الذي خلقنا به الله "أحببتُ خلقكَ فخلقتك"حضرة بهاء الله

الحب الذى غرسه الله في قلوبنا ليفيض ويفيض حتى يشمل جميع الكائنات من بشر وحيوان ونبات

الغريب أن نجد أن البعض قد عكسوا ما فطرهم عليه الله فبدلا من أن يحبوا جميع البشر بأختلاف أجناسهم وعقائدهم ،قاموا بتصنيفهم حسب أهوائهم الشخصية.البعض يكره ذوي البشرة السوداء والبعض الآخر يكره ذوي الدين المختلف عن دينه وآخرين يحتقرون الفقراء والفقراء يحقدون على الأغنياء و..و..و..الخ
ويستمر هذا الكره فى التطور حتى يشمل العالم فتعادي الدول بعضها البعض لمجرد الأختلاف في الأفكار أو الجنس أو الدين أو..الخ
نسى الجميع أن الأرض قد خلقها الله بدون حدود سياسية

فقط أرض واسعة جميلة تتسع وتمتد لتحتضن الجميع
اسود أبيض أصفر فقير غنى ذكر انثى مسلم مسيحى بهائي
يحترم كلٍ الآخر ويكن له أعمق مشاعر الحب
الحب الذى فطره عليه الله
فـــ ـ ـ

ما الأرض إلا وطنٌ واحد والبشر سكانهُ" حضرة بهاء الله"

A SELLECTION FROM KITÁB ALAQDAS WRITTEN BY BAHA'U'LLAH THE FOUNDER OF THE BAHA'I FAITH

مقتطفات من كتاب الأقدس

“THIS IS A TRANSLATION FROM ITS ORIGINAL ARABIC LANGUAGE"


"IN THE NAME OF HIM WHO IS THE SUPREME RULER OVER ALL THAT HATH BEEN AND ALL THAT IS TO BE
1
The first duty prescribed by God for His servants is the recognition of Him Who is the Dayspring of His Revelation and the Fountain of His laws, Who representeth the Godhead in both the Kingdom of His Cause and the world of creation. Whoso achieveth this duty hath attained unto all good; and whoso is deprived thereof hath gone astray, though he be the author of every righteous deed. It behoveth every one who reacheth this most sublime station, this summit of transcendent glory, to observe every ordinance of Him Who is the Desire of the world. These twin duties are inseparable. Neither is acceptable without the other. Thus hath it been decreed by Him Who is the Source of Divine inspiration.
2
They whom God hath endued with insight will readily recognize that the precepts laid down by God constitute the highest means for the maintenance of order in the world and the security of its peoples. He that turneth away from them is accounted among the abject and foolish. We, verily, have commanded you to refuse the dictates of your evil passions and corrupt desires, and not to transgress the bounds which the Pen of the Most High hath fixed, for these are the breath of life unto all created things. The seas of Divine wisdom and Divine utterance have risen under the breath of the breeze of the All-Merciful. Hasten to drink your fill, O men of understanding! They that have violated the Covenant of God by breaking His commandments, and have turned back on their heels, these have erred grievously in the sight of God, the All-Possessing, the Most High.
3
ye peoples of the world! Know assuredly that My commandments are the lamps of My loving providence among My servants, and the keys of My mercy for My creatures. Thus hath it been sent down from the heaven of the Will of your Lord, the Lord of Revelation. Were any man to taste the sweetness of the words which the lips of the All-Merciful have willed to utter, he would, though the treasures of the earth be in his possession, renounce them one and all, that he might vindicate the truth of even one of His commandments, shining above the Dayspring of His bountiful care and loving-kindness.
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Say: From My laws the sweet-smelling savour of My garment can be smelled, and by their aid the standards of Victory will be planted upon the highest peaks. The Tongue of My power hath, from the heaven of My omnipotent glory, addressed to My creation these words: “Observe My commandments, for the love of My beauty.” Happy is the lover that hath inhaled the divine fragrance of his Best-Beloved from these words, laden with the perfume of a grace which no tongue can describe. By My life! He who hath drunk the choice wine of fairness from the hands of My bountiful favour will circle around My commandments that shine above the Dayspring of My creation.
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Think not that We have revealed unto you a mere code of laws. Nay, rather, We have unsealed the choice Wine with the fingers of might and power. To this beareth witness that which the Pen of Revelation hath revealed. Meditate upon this, O men of insight!"